Influence of technology on romantic love?

When looking at the way young people date and interact with one another in the modern day, it seems quite different to how it was done in the past. Technology now plays a huge factor in this process. When thinking about the future of love/future of romantic love, it really begs the question; In the future will love blossom through such different technological means that the results could be different?

For example, current forms of meeting partners include technology assisted services, such as Tinder, eharmony and other online matching and dating services. I often wonder though, does this quick bio on ones self really represent all the strong values and abilities of the young person, or merely just play with physical attraction and convenience. If this propels to the norm, will people miss out on finding their partner if they were matched on current standpoints and text book traits. And will the individuals with differing values and potential to be greater, miss out on their perfect mate?

Tinder for example is a very popular mean of online match making taking the world by storm. Based on DMR 2016 report, Tinder has an estimated 50 million users and there are 26 million matches made on tinder every day. 79% of these tinder users are Millennials who spend on average 35 min on tinder per day. This signifies the impact online dating; let a lone Tinder, is having on the modern world of dating and romance.

Due to this system of people picking and choosing who they please, solely based on images and text, it is scary to think of how the future of romantic love will pan out.

(Helen Fisher 2016)

Above shows a ‘Ted talk’ by Helen Fisher titled “Technology hasn’t changed love. Here’s why”. Helen goes on to speak about the concept of love and how this can never truly be changed. Helen states “love and attachment will prevail, technology can not change it”.

Helen discusses the influence of tinder and other online dating sites, and sees them more as “introducing sites than matching sites”. She also discusses the idea of ‘slow love’ – this being how people are taking their times in committing to someone as they fear divorce and want to know every detail of their partner before commiting. But Helen goes on to say “women in the job market trigger a bigger impact on later marriages and slow love than technology does.”

Helen, also goes on to describe love as something which cannot be shifted by technology. For example, when the birth pill was introduced, women were more free to explore their sexual fantasies and desires, but this didn’t effect love. Helen sees modern technology as the same. So as to prove that she cant possibly see how technology will impact romantic love in the future.

Over every generation there have been many forms of showing and demonstrating romantic love, through all different stages, from dating to long term marriages. Is it easy to some times get caught up in the moment we are in and predict the future of romantic love based of current forms of romantic love. But as Helen suggests; love will never really change. Even with this obstacle of technology, will the beauty and concept of love and romantic love be that different in the future?

– Tom


DMR 2016, 45 Impressive tinder Statistics, viewed 26 October 2016, <>.

Helen Fisher 2016, Helen Fisher: Technology hasn’t changed love. Here’s why,  Ted Talk, June 2016, viewed 26 October 2016, <>.

The Huffington Post 2016, Hacker Heroes, Girl Gamers and Other Reasons to Love Geeky Romance, viewed 26 October 2016, <>.


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